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We women have a peculiar habit that, in general, is pretty
exclusive to the estrogen-powered gender. We look at other women we perceive to be
different than us (or, perhaps the same as us?) and knock them down as much as we can.
Mothers, unfortunately, are no different.
"She should really be at home, raising her children!"
"Such a shame. She had so much talent and intelligence. Now she's wasting it at home
being a housewife."
"Well, you know, she's a single mom. She thinks she can go out every weekend and
leave her kids with whomever."
"What's she complaining about? Mothers who have involved husbands have it all!"
"Those poor kids! Who knows what they are catching -- and the horrible habits they're
learning -- in daycare!"
"Of course Little Johnny doesn't know how to get along with others. He was never in
daycare, and never socialized properly to fit in with other kids!"
How we got here I'll never know. Is it a deeply-buried instinct women have to fight for
their men to continue the human race (an estrogen-influenced survival of the fittest)? Or
are we all just nasty by nature?
One thing I know for sure. None of the comments are truth, and none of the comments are
productive. We are wasting are valuable energy bringing each other down, when instead, we
should be propping each other up. Because another truth that I absolutely believe is we
all have the same goal -- to raise our children as best we can with the circumstances we
have.
Working mothers are an especially fun target these days. They are constantly told they are
doing the wrong thing by placing their kids in daycare and working. Their kids need them,
they're told. Well, duh! Of course their children need them! Don't yours? Instead, why not
offer to help that working mother you have been shunning by helping her work out a plan to
reduce her hours at work, or offer to take her children one day a week, or make her family
a dinner one night a week so she has more time with her children. Put your efforts where
your mouth is and you might be greeted with more productive results.
And what about housewives? They have it bad, too. Maybe they were in the workforce until
they had children, and now they stay at home, out of choice and out of necessity.
Stay-at-home moms are often looked down upon as "the little housewife" who does
nothing all day and who is wasting her college education away. Why not help her get out of
the house and spend time on herself? One day playing housewife will surely open your eyes
to just how hard she works. Or, have a good long talk with her about her passions in life.
Maybe deep down, she's anxious to turn a hobby into a work-at-home career.
Which brings me to the work-at-home moms with those "hobbies." Why not enlist
the talents of a work-at-home mom for your next project, or gift for your mom, etc. You
will be humbly impressed with her talents and "hobby" and she will be helped
with yet another customer reference! Don't know any work-at-home moms? Meet some at the
MamaShop and lend a little support their way!
And what about the single moms? These ladies, in my not-so-humble opinion, must have the
toughest life of all of us. I don't know how they do it. I am in awe of all the single
moms out there raising decent, respectable kids on their own. We all need to get out there
and help every single mom we can get our hands on! Cook some freezer dinners! Run some
errands! Babysit! Clean her house! Refer a cute single guy looking for an instant family
to her! Whatever it takes, just do it! Today!
When you step back and really look at other moms, you will see that we all share a bond
that is extremely powerful. We moms dry tears in a single hug, mend "owies" and
broken hearts and are educating future generations by our every act. Don't send them the
wrong message of intolerance. Teach them that all mommies' children are important. And so
are all the mommies.
About the Author: Kristine Roberson considers herself a
work-at-home mom, working mom, stay-at-home mom and single mom during football and
baseball seasons. She is "Mama" at MyMamaSaid.com
Copyright 2000-01, Kristine Roberson
